Hi... Just want to know what will you parents do when you and your toddler are at:

1) the carpark
2) pavement
3) crossing the road

Do you:

1) Carry your toddler to make sure he/she don't run about, then explain to him/her that they are cars around and is very dangerous.

2) Let he/she stand beside you when you are taking things from the car or locking the doors, just telling him/her that is dangerous, stay with mummy/daddy, there are cars around, do not walk around.....

I am really piss off with my husband on the above topic and we have not been talking 4 a few days.... So many times, I have seen him doing no 2 at the carpark and I just keep quite but making sure my son really stay still or try to hold his hand cos I am carrying my gal. I kept quite cos I dun want to be a nag....Last Saturday nite when we came back to our carpark..and same thing happen.. My boy was just holding a lantern and the lantern thread break.. so my husband took over his lantern and try to fix it... then he start to say, dont walk around lah, got cars lah... blar blar... Then my boy just run a few steps in the carpark... There is a car coming luckily its still a distance away...

Then I tell him why cant you just carry him, instead of just telling him... He is just 2yrs old and you cant expect him to understand or listen to you at this age... Anything can happen... You parents know what happen, he raise his voice at me and say... I am the one saying to teach him by telling or explaining to him. I told him that at the carpark you cant assume he understand right... Then I told him I cant be bother to talk to him any more, and I just carry my gal and go home myself...

I am so so angry:
1st he raise his voice at me
2nd tou i say to explain things to the kids, but it also depends on what and where.... got no brain ah.... can carry him to explain right, no need to let him stand beside you to explain

I don't think I am wrong loh.....PISS OFF....

For me, i will not carry my child when I'm in the carpark. Since young i have been teaching him that carpark or even road r not a place for playing. There are cars everywhere & they might not be able to see u as u r too small or short. I think it's more important to teach them the importance of safety then just kept carrying them.

it depends for me

sometimes i will carry and sometimes i will ask her to stand there o wait for me.
of course i will place her by the side of the car or at car boot end if there are spaces available.
then keep reminding her to stand still to wait for me to hold her hands or carry her when i am done.


if i can manage then i take all the things before getting her out of the car

1. try not to stop at the carpark to do anythin - if lantern thread break, fix it when you reach the destination, etc.
2. when loading/unloading stuff, kids to remain on board the car until dad/mum has finish.

I agree loh but he will usually get him out of the car and let him stand beside him, then get the stuff...My son like to walk by himself, so he dun like to hold him. Sometime when we try to hold him, he will try to free himself... Because of this, that is why i feel its dangerous...

it's indeed dangerous if he do not stand still and wait
cos we nvr noe when there is car that suddenly swerve in


for me, she listens to instruction and will wait for us at the spot.
of course must place them at a non dangerous spot

i nvr carry my son, but will hold his hands n tell him not to run arnd bcos the cars can't c him n he can't c the cars coming. n there's examples of cars n motors zoomin pass us as i finish my point.

my dh is opp fr urs, he always nag at me when i din hold him when we r walkin to the car. (its parked outside our house, landed.)

No matter how i will hold my ds hand. If i need to take something, i will ask him wait in the car, after i take all my things then i will hold him.

aiyo...that time, this little indian girl ran into a 2-lane road & back...so dangerous amah just stand there guarding her marketing basket.

luckily dh not driving fast...or else i dunno what will happen.

It's always good to hold the kids as they're too young to make judgement.

ah yoh... say is easy.. my son very haolian..always want to walk by himself.... so sometime even hold very tight, he will try his way to free himself... that is why I am very scared when he is in the carpark...

haha. exactly!

when kids r 2 1/2 - 3 1/3 yrs old. they wan to b independent orady!

mine oso always tryin to dtich our hands when we force our hands into his. so we r always scoldin him only den he allow us. but more den usual, he wan to CHOOSE who he wan to hold hands wif

for me har..usually will insist to hold his hand when there is car around..cos hor..cos some driver siao siao one..in carpark will oso srive beri fast..n hor some carpark beri dark..n kids hor so short.they might nt see him lor..

Sometime ds will oso struggle..if he does so..will put my hand on his shoulder which he will prefer us to do tt on him...

Same leh.. my son also like that.