Hi, I am 7 months pregnant and are wondering how i should prepare my 2 years old plus daughter for her baby brother so that she won't feel neglected. Pls advise. Many thanks!

Hi, every since I found out i was pregnant, I've been telling my 2 yr + dd that i've a didi in my tummy.... She goes with me and my dh for all my gynae visits and we show her didi in the ultrasound scan.

People hv advised me to let her pick up some clothes for didi so she feels involved n to get her a toy she likes secretly. But to only give it to her when she visits u in the hosp after delivery. Tis is to tell her that the toy is a gift fm her didi.

i got ds to be involved in my pregnancy right from the 1st trimester coz he likes to rough-house on my tummy. also for the fact that i had to stop carrying him for my own sake in later pregnancy and confinement.

i also nudged ds closer to dh, initiating them to spend time together, so i can concentrate on #2 later.

i brought him along 1x to my gynae but as he was restless during the wait i didnt bring for future ones. instead all my ultrascan photos i let him see #2 "waving" hello to him.

i buy gifts and said its from #2. he would say thank you and kiss my tummy. initially he was hesistant to pass down his cot and other baby stuff so i dont push it, wait for him volunteer them away.

also started being fair, if i bring him along to buy baby items, will make sure he gets something too.

When I'm pregnant for my 2nd 1.. I told my son right away.. let him feel the excitement w/ us.. Yes.. I oso brought him 2 all my gynae visits.. let him be part of my pregnancy.. when buying baby stuffs oso tag him along.. & let him help 2 do w/ some choices.. then when baby is about to be out.. let him help out in the preparation of baby stuffs.. oso do inform ur daughter that didi is coming out soon when u r nearing ur EDD.. i oso bought a present for my son in advance.. when both mummy & baby is bk home from hospital.. get baby 2 giv my son the present..

anyway congrats on ur pregnancy!

Thanks guys for all the advise. Have tried telling her about her didi and her reaction is not consistent. Sometimes, she looks ok like when playing cooking, she will auto cook extra 1 set for her didi but on other times,she will try to beat my stomach saying she wants to hit didi.... anyway, hope everthing turns out well.

opps...

instead of telling her to stop hitting didi, tell her to stop hitting YOU coz it hurts YOU.

if you cant carry her anymore, dont tell her its because she's too heavy or ure already tired because of didi, but tell her your back hurts.

hv to be a little "diplomatic". do involve the little one when u play with her. ask her to feed didi even if it means she has to feed you in order for the food to reach didi. ask her if didi could hv some of her snacks but if she doesnt want then dont push

hi,,,,i am also in the similar situation,,,just tat my 1st ds is only 17mth old....
we have been telling him tat he is having a mei mei....and when we ask him where is mei mei or 'sayang' mei mei....my son will reach out his hand and stroke my tummy.....

ever since i am preg,,,my dh and i also been telling him we love him etc etc.....

but i am thinking,,,does he really noe tat mei mei is coming?..wat other preparations do i need to do so tat my ds does not feel neglected...